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I don't get the concept of 'Blog writing'.. actually the problem is, I DO know what it is. Its supposed to be just your thoughts.. just write what u feel, what u think about, what bugs u etc.. but the problem starts when u begin wondering how people will react to your writing! Ideally u're not supposed to care about that, but we do, don't we? Its not like we're authors & just HAVE to sell our books to put food on the table, but still.. the need for acceptance is strong in everyone. You want ppl to read your blog & think u're smart & intellectual, don't u? And that is exactly why you write & re-write your sentences, trying to come across as 'cool & smart'. Think about it, its true. Are u thinking up a witty comment yet?

Prose or Poetry?

Are you a poet? If no, then this blog is for you. If yes, ask yourself this: Do u really believe u're any good? If the answer is yes, u may or may not want to read this piece of useless info. But if the answer is no, then again, read on...

There are people for whom poetic words come very easily. They see the 'real' beauty of nature, they can rhyme beautiful words together.. they like to call themselves romantics, and according to them, those who aren't poetic, are NOT romantic. WRONG! I consider myself a romantic, but I don't feel the particular need to prance around with a flower in my hand, or say, bend over double to look at the morning dew on blades of grass... So what am I supposed to do? Can't a guy just be a guy these days? Can't he still be 'sensitive' without showing the obvious traits of a sensitive guy?... by sensitive traits I mean like getting all mushy mushy when he sees a sunset, or stuff like that..(that's just gay isn't it? I'm sure the women would agree with me too on this one) I had read somewhere 'How 'sensitive' should a guy be?' - the answer is obviously, just enough to get the girl he wants. Sadly that is the truth ladies. That's how sensitive your guy really is. And trust me, any more and you wouldn't have liked it either.
How would you feel if he looked at your dress and instead of saying "Wow babe you look hot!", he said "Wow this is such a lovely design! Its chiffon isn't it? and I love the flowery look, it goes well with the spring season... you know, I really think the new Spring collection is all about chiffon & flowers....blah blah"
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Are you thinking what I'm thinking? Yes, I know......Gay. Very Gay.

ANYWAY, what was the topic about? yes - poetry. And NO, before you're thinking up a comment, I do NOT mean to say that all men who write/love poetry are gay.

Well since this is my blog, I think I have earned the right to blab a bit about myself here. It concerns my prose vs poetry writing skills. I remember once when I was in school, we were asked to write for the school magazine, the whole class - One poem & one story. First we were asked to write a peom & given half an hour. I sat there racking my brain for one good line. After about 10 excruciating moments I came up with one sentence! Then I realised Oh no! I have to rhyme the second sentence! How the hell do I do that? And so went the remaining 20 minutes - extremely painful moments of my childhood. Then finally we were told to write a story, and were given a choice of 5 topics, one of them being, 'The most exciting adventure of my life'. Wow! I remember scribbling away merrily, I wrote a story about being chased by bear in a jungle! That was a really good story by the way, and it got selected for the magazine! I was 9 years old and remember using the word 'petrified'. Pretty impressive at that age I think. (I really can't explain why I remember this piece of trivia; my brain seems to have an amazingly large capacity to remember the tiniest detail ONLY if its a totally useless fact)

So there. If you can write, but can't write poetry, don't be discouraged. You can always write a blog! ... or at least a comment!

Note to reader: If you read the whole blog, that means you really had nothing better to do in those few precious moments you wasted reading it. So please don't complain about your time being wasted!

What is love?

Now this question has been asked since the beginning of time. And people have never failed to give you their pearls of wisdom about it. So I'm not gonna be a smartass and act as if I know all about it. But yes, I am very happy to say I am in love with a wonderful person who loves me back. I feel the wonderful effects of it every single day. Having felt love, I can definitely say that and it is an amazingly beautiful thing.

Now reverting back to my question 'What is love?'Let's try categorizing it. Forget crushes, infatuations, adorations etc... you know way too much about those. I'm talking about real relationships. I can look at it from a guy's perspective. I certainly say it changes certain things about u. Even if you stay apart, it affects your lifestyle to some extent - but in a non-invasive way, in a better sortof way. And let's not get into that right now! It'll just get ickily mushy & u'll stop reading!

I truly believe that each an every love story in the world is absolutely unique.When u hear somebody's story, it always sounds familiar. Oh its the same old story - boy meets girl, falls in love, girl refuses intially (As proper Indian girls should :-D), then girl accepts, then dad comes into picture, problem, tension (as all respectable Indian fathers are supposed to behave - protect their darling daughter from the clutches of the evil scheming son-in-law), then the moms rush into the melee, try to pacify everybody and in the end?? All's well that ends well. Simple isn't it? I don't think so.
Its because you dont know the whole story. You don't know all the complications involved. When u go through all the tortuous details, u realise there's a different twist at every corner. Why else do u think there are so many lovie dovie movies? If u summarize them in a nutshell they're all the same, but u still go to see them right? Kya pata ye wala shayad 'zara hatke' hoga! That's just the thing!

I have been in the US for the past 3 & a half years. I have seen so many kinds of relationships that I can't even begin to tell you about it. As good boys we came here thinking virginity is a big thing. It took me about 2 weeks to realize people dont give a flying fart about the big V. Now realize, I said 'people', not me. Now let's not get into that. The point is, if a relationship starts with the American style dating: dinner, movie, coffee (at her apartment ) and then the inevitable, well what do u get? In other words, well, a 'test drive'. Now what happens when u take a test drive? You want to see what else is in the showroom before u go ahead. Right? See? See what I mean? That's not love! Love is when u flip open a Men's magazine and see a Lamborghini Murcielago staring back at u - a little lewdly I might add.. then what do u do? You fall in love! Yeah! That's reeeal love right there! At that time will u care how many miles to a gallon it gives u? Will you care how much the insurance guys will milk out of u? NO! You're in love!!! Aahh that feeling... if u can get her (assuming u obviously have a quarter mill to throw away), u WILL take her, no matter what! That's what I'm talking about!Now well, if you're a woman reading this, I'll have to give u a whole new example... like beautiful curtains or maybe an exotic and insanely expensive bouquet of flowers, which won't last more than a few hours - really what's it about women and flowers anyway? The same about men and cars I suppose...

Phew! I think I've gone on enough! And I think u get the drift... if not, well u can believe what Stewie Griffin has to say, "There's really no such thing as LOVE, really. It's just a puffed-up word used by Madison Avenue to sell their skin creams and two-seater cars."